From previous blogs everyone knows I'm a single parent and I have an Autistic child.You're probably thinking yes we know that so what?The so what is the lack of understanding from people and cutbacks in services due to government cutbacks which has a knock on effect on families like us.Society views on our so called bad parenting which is not the case.
There are over 100 different types of Autism,basically its like a huge umbrella starting from very severe,unable to speak,walk and cope with day to day things like everyone else takes for granted to high functioning.No type of Autism is easier or harder than any other each has the same issues and the care is demanding.Its a 24/7 life time disability but people don't or choose not to understand.Its not a new disability after all Einstein was suspected of having Autism.You say Autism to people and they say oh like Rain Man?No its not Rain Man!
Autism quite simply to me is their brains are wired a bit differently from our brains.Social situations are hard to deal with,obsessive behaviours ie Thomas the Tank engine,Transformers,computers etc.Sensory issues ie certain noises,textures,smells etc.Routines,social stories to adapt to any changes that are happening,timetables so they can see what is happening each day.Labels in clothes which have to be cut out as the feeling drives them crazy.Non verbal Autistic people have to learn Makaton,a form of sign language,PECS,picture education communication system,picture cards,word cards,picture timetables.
I've had to learn all this luckily I don't have to use a lot of it anymore BUT I still have to deal with the meltdowns.Some parents are lucky to be offered courses such as EarlyBird and EarlyBird Plus which helps you understand Autism a bit better and how to write social stories etc.Makaton is also another course which I'm a bit rusty with now as I haven't used it for a few years.When they're under five you can get a Portage worker which helps special needs children through play.I still have photos when my boy had Portage.What happens when they are at school?Some go to special schools while others go to mainstream education thats when the battles begin.Education psychologists,SENCOs,psychiatrists,that is when a whole Statement of Special Educational Needs begins.Its a long drawn out process and you have to push for things.They don't give them out very easily.
Meltdowns are very scary at times and I don't mind telling the world that!As they get older its more frightening because they got a lot stronger especially when I'm only a 5ft2 skinny thing and my boy is taller than me at 11 years old and broadly built.I admit he scares me when he has a meltdown as i never know what is going to happen and if I'm going to be able to defuse the situation without it escalating.I can mention lots of incidents one sticks in my head when he was younger before the medical profession introduced medication.Picture this dumb bells being thrown at you from the top of the stairs,bedroom being smashed up and you have to try and calm them down.Its a scary feeling but you can't get emotional you have to stay calm otherwise it escalates.You restrain and calm the situation,your child is lying on the floor with a quilt wrapped around them and you're sitting on top of them as they're sobbing saying it wasn't them its an alien taking over.Few hours later all starts again!!Six foot high bookcase full of books crashing down to the floor and you have to shut yourself in a room for your safety and ring for help as its out of control.What got me a few years was an unhelpful police officer saying to me if your son was older he would be charged with domestic violence.Wrong attitude matey he's a child crying out for help!
Some people say medication is not the answer in this situation it is trust me on this everyone's situation is different.Without medication one of us to be brutally honest would be in hospital.I still have that threat in my head and I have been told by professionals that is the reality so I have an emergency 999 plan.You're probably thinking how can you call emergency services on your child?Its going to come to a point I will have to for my safety,my son's safety and the safety of others.I've been beaten by him,had tape measures wrapped around my neck etc but I still love him as I know his brain is overloaded.
Self harm issues is another one.Twice my son has tried to hang himself once was literally a couple of days ago.My boy has even been in a playground and tied a plastic bag around his neck and dinner ladies didn't notice luckily he took it off.I've had my boy run away from school when things have got too much and even once ran away from home and police have found him.
What does the future hold?To be honest I have no idea and it scares the living daylights out of me.Reality is according to professionals he's not going to be able to live on his own and he could end up in a secure unit or worse.I have to take each day as it comes and live each moment as it is but I love my son with all my heart and that to me is important.He needs to know I'm there for the rest of my life no matter what happens.
I'm hoping people who read this can understand what it is like and maybe a few of you can relate and understand this.No matter what we are all different and unique and we should have more understanding of others.Never judge a book by the cover as the saying goes.
Please feel free to comment
Friday, 27 September 2013
Sunday, 15 September 2013
Diversity.........Rise to success
Diversity but what does it mean?Simple really.We all live in a diverse world where everyone is unique and different to each other.Its celebrating the rich dimensions of each individual,moving beyond tolerance and embracing the uniqueness.
I am talking about the dance crew Diversity,led by Ashley Banjo.A dance crew that blew everyone away worldwide an Essex/London based crew who started entering street dance battles.Some of the history is quite hard to get hold of from when they formed Menace and Swift Moves but if you go on YouTube you will see a lot of early competitions before they became so world famous.
Before BGT they won several Jump Off competitions battling hard and winning.These people have the most unique moves from Mitch coming out of a bag (bless him)to Perri being thrown around (I wouldn't like that,imagine the motion sickness).After winning several comps they entered BGT.
Britains Got Talent is a major thing in the UK and to me Diversity blew all the rules out the water.In their audition their performance was out of this world BUT one judge had doubts ie Piers Morgan as he preferred Flawless.Diversity had that edge and moves that many people hadn't seen or thought of!In the final,well they proved Piers wrong!!So many people love proving him wrong let me tell you.It was THE most nail biting final to date.I don't think any other act has caused that much emotion,nail biting final ever.The winning Routine blew everyone away,completed with a standing ovation from the audience,judges and probably everyone at home.Diversity ended up in the final three.I wonder how much money the bookies lost that night?Finally Diversity won a moment they will never forget.That was in 2009.
Britain Got Talent changed Diversity life for the better.They broke into the mainstream so everyone could learn their moves.Numerous TV interviews they were and still are in demand!How many people can say they have performed outside 10 Downing Street in front of Gordon Brown?Even if Perri did fall bless him.Diversitoys cam along thanks to the creative mind of Ashley and the boys.Very unique and extremely clever and imaginative all part of three concepts of Da Vinci's code.Toys that come to life.Digitized wow the second concept so mind blowing out of this world.Get the DVD and you will see why they sold out 02 Arena.SEcret street crew,Ashley's motto anyone can dance.Yes anyone can dance with Ashley and DV teaching you wouldn't skip class with these.YOU would be taking everything in they are teaching.Got to Dance,Ultimate Block Party all with the same thing anyone can dance if you put your mind heart and soul into it.
With Diversity what strikes me the most apart from the dancing good looks etc is how humble they are.They remain so humble to their fans and are always thankful and grateful to all their fans.This is very rare in people that are so famous and its an amazing quality to have.To me you should never forget where you come from in life.Diversity are like a family that you have watched grow in the last few years and still growing.You are a part of their achievments and you feel that bond between them all in their routines and shows.They have grown so much and yet stay so humble and loyal to their fans.Stardom,success and fame hasn't changed them at all.Its true success comes and goes but loyalty and family will always be there and you never forget that.
Diversity are doing another arena tour at the end of the year,Limitless is the third concept and I can't imagine what they are going to do for this.Diversity are one of those groups that come along once in a lifetime and know how to blow your mind and yet still stay true to themselves,family and their talent.Diversity you have inspired so many people worldwide and we are touched,blessed and humbl to be a part of your success and watching you grow for many years to come.Thankyou
I am talking about the dance crew Diversity,led by Ashley Banjo.A dance crew that blew everyone away worldwide an Essex/London based crew who started entering street dance battles.Some of the history is quite hard to get hold of from when they formed Menace and Swift Moves but if you go on YouTube you will see a lot of early competitions before they became so world famous.
Before BGT they won several Jump Off competitions battling hard and winning.These people have the most unique moves from Mitch coming out of a bag (bless him)to Perri being thrown around (I wouldn't like that,imagine the motion sickness).After winning several comps they entered BGT.
Britains Got Talent is a major thing in the UK and to me Diversity blew all the rules out the water.In their audition their performance was out of this world BUT one judge had doubts ie Piers Morgan as he preferred Flawless.Diversity had that edge and moves that many people hadn't seen or thought of!In the final,well they proved Piers wrong!!So many people love proving him wrong let me tell you.It was THE most nail biting final to date.I don't think any other act has caused that much emotion,nail biting final ever.The winning Routine blew everyone away,completed with a standing ovation from the audience,judges and probably everyone at home.Diversity ended up in the final three.I wonder how much money the bookies lost that night?Finally Diversity won a moment they will never forget.That was in 2009.
Britain Got Talent changed Diversity life for the better.They broke into the mainstream so everyone could learn their moves.Numerous TV interviews they were and still are in demand!How many people can say they have performed outside 10 Downing Street in front of Gordon Brown?Even if Perri did fall bless him.Diversitoys cam along thanks to the creative mind of Ashley and the boys.Very unique and extremely clever and imaginative all part of three concepts of Da Vinci's code.Toys that come to life.Digitized wow the second concept so mind blowing out of this world.Get the DVD and you will see why they sold out 02 Arena.SEcret street crew,Ashley's motto anyone can dance.Yes anyone can dance with Ashley and DV teaching you wouldn't skip class with these.YOU would be taking everything in they are teaching.Got to Dance,Ultimate Block Party all with the same thing anyone can dance if you put your mind heart and soul into it.
With Diversity what strikes me the most apart from the dancing good looks etc is how humble they are.They remain so humble to their fans and are always thankful and grateful to all their fans.This is very rare in people that are so famous and its an amazing quality to have.To me you should never forget where you come from in life.Diversity are like a family that you have watched grow in the last few years and still growing.You are a part of their achievments and you feel that bond between them all in their routines and shows.They have grown so much and yet stay so humble and loyal to their fans.Stardom,success and fame hasn't changed them at all.Its true success comes and goes but loyalty and family will always be there and you never forget that.
Diversity are doing another arena tour at the end of the year,Limitless is the third concept and I can't imagine what they are going to do for this.Diversity are one of those groups that come along once in a lifetime and know how to blow your mind and yet still stay true to themselves,family and their talent.Diversity you have inspired so many people worldwide and we are touched,blessed and humbl to be a part of your success and watching you grow for many years to come.Thankyou
Wednesday, 11 September 2013
Single parents-Less of the judgements
I know this title speaks volumes 'Single parents' but people need to expel the myths of single parents.Whats it like being a single parent?Why are you a single parent?Single parents expect taxpayers to pay for them-this I absolutely disagree with unless you know the facts.We're back to people tarring everyone with the same brush!My point is?Everyone has their own story to tell reasons why they ended up as single parents and not through fault of their own.Things happen in life that you have no control over but the way I've learnt to see it is these things are sent to prepare us for better things to come.It makes us a person and forms part of our personalities and how we percieve things in life.
Basically I think I should start from the beginning maybe from when i was a child.Theres a lot of hype that your childhood is what moulds you and prepares you for adulthood and the real world.Your parents are your role models and they teach the values of life and what to expect in life BUT what if you didn't grow up within a family with 2.4 children house and cars?
I grew up in the care system from the age of 3.I'll always remember my mum dropping me off in that home with my baby half sister who was only 6 months old at the time.My mum was 16 when she had me and single parents were frowned upon especially teenage ones.I can remember seeing her a few times then I didn't see her again.It was quite a large family I was staying with in a 3 bedroom maisonette.There was me my half sister two teenage boys a teenage girl two younger kids and childminding kids.Things were really bad which I'm not going to go into but things happened hence i got moved to another family at the age of 10 who adopted me.That was the last i saw of my half sister.
At the age of 17 social services showed me my file and police were involved you get the picture.At that age i had a lot of demons to deal with but looking back its made me a better person,more understanding of others.
I found my mum at the age 19 and everyone has this hearts and flowers dreams that everything is going to be so cosy and live happily ever after.I admit I got my hopes way to high and it didn't work out that way my own fault for building such huge expectations.My mum had a new partner who was the same age as me and a son who was 14 at the time.I was shocked believe then I learnt about other brothers and sisters 2 of whom died as children.I also found out my mum married 4 times and she only kept one of us.At the time that hurt hearing all this and how my nan wanted to adopt me when i was 5 but the system wouldn't let her as my grandad had schizophrenia.We decided to part as no one knew about me where she lived.Must admit it did make me feel like a dirty secret.
I have a 22 year old daughter and I did struggle bringing her up and when she was 5 i had a child who died of a rare disease.I had numerous stays in hospital with this child.It also came out that during these hospital stays something happened to my daughter by my partners brother.Any parent can imagine my reaction especially when your partner sticks up for their brother saying blood is thicker than water.That has always stuck in my head.She is now gay and going through bi-gender issues and we have fallen out due to her view of things but she knows I love her and my door is always open for her.
I also have 11 year old boy who has autism,lots of clashes between brother and sister think to be honest she finds it really hard to deal with it plus her own issues so i can understand that.His dad was a violent man.Typical situation all nice at first feet under the table and things change.Constant calls at work hanging around at work seeing who i talk to.Waiting even if i finished work at midnight for me to cook food while he was drinking and everything else.I always dread the drink guaranteed i knew what was coming next even if i was quiet and didn't speak.Things came to a head when i found out I was pregnant,thinking he'll change and we'll be happy.That was me being naive!If anything things got a whole lot worse to the point i nearly died.Police moved me to a refuge for my own safety and then got moved to two other refuges as he found me the git.No chance of that now as I had to have my name changed for my own safety.
You're probably thinking what's all this got to do with single parents?Simple not all of us decide we're going to scrounge off the taxpayer get free housing etc.There are single parents who do it through no fault of their own,who have had to fight for their life,kids and their own health,getting over nervous breakdowns,depression etc.I have a 24 hour job seven days a week with no paid sick leave or holiday pay.I have fought for everything in my life with no family at all.Its hard work being a single parent as you feel on your own.People are too quick to judge nowadays,what people dont know circumstances make single parents.What I have gone through has made me the person I am today and I think more understanding of people and my children.
At the end of people will still judge whoever you are its the downside of human nature and its perfectly.Maybe we should all take time out to talk to a person instead of judging.I know i've done my best and theres more to come but Im ther 24/7 seven days a week.Would i change the past?Maybe,maybe not the past made me who i am now,hopefully a stronger caring parent.
Basically I think I should start from the beginning maybe from when i was a child.Theres a lot of hype that your childhood is what moulds you and prepares you for adulthood and the real world.Your parents are your role models and they teach the values of life and what to expect in life BUT what if you didn't grow up within a family with 2.4 children house and cars?
I grew up in the care system from the age of 3.I'll always remember my mum dropping me off in that home with my baby half sister who was only 6 months old at the time.My mum was 16 when she had me and single parents were frowned upon especially teenage ones.I can remember seeing her a few times then I didn't see her again.It was quite a large family I was staying with in a 3 bedroom maisonette.There was me my half sister two teenage boys a teenage girl two younger kids and childminding kids.Things were really bad which I'm not going to go into but things happened hence i got moved to another family at the age of 10 who adopted me.That was the last i saw of my half sister.
At the age of 17 social services showed me my file and police were involved you get the picture.At that age i had a lot of demons to deal with but looking back its made me a better person,more understanding of others.
I found my mum at the age 19 and everyone has this hearts and flowers dreams that everything is going to be so cosy and live happily ever after.I admit I got my hopes way to high and it didn't work out that way my own fault for building such huge expectations.My mum had a new partner who was the same age as me and a son who was 14 at the time.I was shocked believe then I learnt about other brothers and sisters 2 of whom died as children.I also found out my mum married 4 times and she only kept one of us.At the time that hurt hearing all this and how my nan wanted to adopt me when i was 5 but the system wouldn't let her as my grandad had schizophrenia.We decided to part as no one knew about me where she lived.Must admit it did make me feel like a dirty secret.
I have a 22 year old daughter and I did struggle bringing her up and when she was 5 i had a child who died of a rare disease.I had numerous stays in hospital with this child.It also came out that during these hospital stays something happened to my daughter by my partners brother.Any parent can imagine my reaction especially when your partner sticks up for their brother saying blood is thicker than water.That has always stuck in my head.She is now gay and going through bi-gender issues and we have fallen out due to her view of things but she knows I love her and my door is always open for her.
I also have 11 year old boy who has autism,lots of clashes between brother and sister think to be honest she finds it really hard to deal with it plus her own issues so i can understand that.His dad was a violent man.Typical situation all nice at first feet under the table and things change.Constant calls at work hanging around at work seeing who i talk to.Waiting even if i finished work at midnight for me to cook food while he was drinking and everything else.I always dread the drink guaranteed i knew what was coming next even if i was quiet and didn't speak.Things came to a head when i found out I was pregnant,thinking he'll change and we'll be happy.That was me being naive!If anything things got a whole lot worse to the point i nearly died.Police moved me to a refuge for my own safety and then got moved to two other refuges as he found me the git.No chance of that now as I had to have my name changed for my own safety.
You're probably thinking what's all this got to do with single parents?Simple not all of us decide we're going to scrounge off the taxpayer get free housing etc.There are single parents who do it through no fault of their own,who have had to fight for their life,kids and their own health,getting over nervous breakdowns,depression etc.I have a 24 hour job seven days a week with no paid sick leave or holiday pay.I have fought for everything in my life with no family at all.Its hard work being a single parent as you feel on your own.People are too quick to judge nowadays,what people dont know circumstances make single parents.What I have gone through has made me the person I am today and I think more understanding of people and my children.
At the end of people will still judge whoever you are its the downside of human nature and its perfectly.Maybe we should all take time out to talk to a person instead of judging.I know i've done my best and theres more to come but Im ther 24/7 seven days a week.Would i change the past?Maybe,maybe not the past made me who i am now,hopefully a stronger caring parent.
Tuesday, 10 September 2013
Social Media and Life in general
Well in a day of social media,making new friends,following idols,tweeting,poking,tagging its all normality nowadays.Normality to the point it takes over peoples lives.Take Facebook for instance a relationship is not official unless its on Facebook for the whole world to see what happened to just using word of mouth instead of technology?Another one is I saw it on Facebook as well as the rest of the world so it must be true.Drawback of Facebook?Have you ever done a search on your idols and theres 200 plus accounts of them all fake and you sit there wondering are your lives that empty you have to pretend to be someone?Have you thought about the statuses you put up that fans believe it and then take it to twitter?Some people seriously need to get a life and enjoy being who they are and not do these fake accounts.Mind you theres some lovely pictures on these accounts but thats a whole different story!
Twitter,well,what can I say?Legal stalking,following and drama!!OH THE DRAMA!!Possessive people,jealousy even hate.I can never understand some peoples minds,I'll even go as far to say I understand an autistic mind more than some other people.Mind you the good thing about twitter they have a lovely follow button which turns blue when you press it and its so easy to block as well!Another good thing with twitter your idols accounts are verified with a nice blue tick.Wonder why twitter chose blue out of all the colour spectrum?Maybe someone can tell me?
Now the drama oh how we dread drama on twitter!People get very jealous and obsessive over their idols,to the point they are literally stalking them in real life trying to get attention 24/7 then hating on other people because they get attention or don't conform to what they're doing.Social Media can also be an open ground for bullying which is the lowest of the low.The way i see it,idealistic point of view I know,everyone should be happy if they get to meet their idols,they are not a possession that you can decide who sees them or tweets them.They are on twitter to share things with fans and majority love it when they do.Then again you always get a handful of people that spoil it for everyone else shame really.The only people that own their idols are their management companies and their families.
I would hate to be famous seriously my phone would be learning to fly and gaining a pilot license if i was famous and on twitter.Thats probably why twitter has the option of turning your mentions off think mine would probably be permanently off!Idols must cringe at times when they go through their mentions or read everyones timelines.I forget sometimes that twitter is so open and the whole world can read what you write.Whats the worse that can happen?Block me?Unfollow?No great loss if people do that,could think of worse things to cry over in real life which I have done believe me!
Must admit some people can get very emotional if you unfollow or block, to me thats freedom of choice.Everyone is allowed choices in life no matter who you are think some people forget that.Twitter does take over lives people do get attached to social media (must admit I love a good tweeting session and creeping on profiles)to the point they feel victimised because you don't follow get a grip,have a look at your life and then you'll find the solution!I do admit I have my twitter family.I'm very close to them and they are my world and i won't let anyone bully them.I have spoke to some lovely genuine people from Europe and UK.I would do anything for these people and hope to be lifelong friends with these people.Anyway socialmedia take it as you will but remember there is life beyond a screen and dont be so emotional if you're unfriended etc.
Twitter,well,what can I say?Legal stalking,following and drama!!OH THE DRAMA!!Possessive people,jealousy even hate.I can never understand some peoples minds,I'll even go as far to say I understand an autistic mind more than some other people.Mind you the good thing about twitter they have a lovely follow button which turns blue when you press it and its so easy to block as well!Another good thing with twitter your idols accounts are verified with a nice blue tick.Wonder why twitter chose blue out of all the colour spectrum?Maybe someone can tell me?
Now the drama oh how we dread drama on twitter!People get very jealous and obsessive over their idols,to the point they are literally stalking them in real life trying to get attention 24/7 then hating on other people because they get attention or don't conform to what they're doing.Social Media can also be an open ground for bullying which is the lowest of the low.The way i see it,idealistic point of view I know,everyone should be happy if they get to meet their idols,they are not a possession that you can decide who sees them or tweets them.They are on twitter to share things with fans and majority love it when they do.Then again you always get a handful of people that spoil it for everyone else shame really.The only people that own their idols are their management companies and their families.
I would hate to be famous seriously my phone would be learning to fly and gaining a pilot license if i was famous and on twitter.Thats probably why twitter has the option of turning your mentions off think mine would probably be permanently off!Idols must cringe at times when they go through their mentions or read everyones timelines.I forget sometimes that twitter is so open and the whole world can read what you write.Whats the worse that can happen?Block me?Unfollow?No great loss if people do that,could think of worse things to cry over in real life which I have done believe me!
Must admit some people can get very emotional if you unfollow or block, to me thats freedom of choice.Everyone is allowed choices in life no matter who you are think some people forget that.Twitter does take over lives people do get attached to social media (must admit I love a good tweeting session and creeping on profiles)to the point they feel victimised because you don't follow get a grip,have a look at your life and then you'll find the solution!I do admit I have my twitter family.I'm very close to them and they are my world and i won't let anyone bully them.I have spoke to some lovely genuine people from Europe and UK.I would do anything for these people and hope to be lifelong friends with these people.Anyway socialmedia take it as you will but remember there is life beyond a screen and dont be so emotional if you're unfriended etc.
Friday, 6 September 2013
Diversity Dance Crew A fangirls point of view
Who knows about Britains Got Talent?Who remembers Britains Got Talent 2009?The most nail biting final of 2009.Bookies favourites were Susan Boyle to win BUT to millions it needed to be Diversity a London based dance crew who brought fresh and new dance moves to the mainstream.Would you believe who are still going today and there routines always look so fresh and new and untouchable.
Most talent who win shows like these seem to disappear never to be heard of again but Diversity are still stronger than ever in 2013.BGT was a massive life changing opportunity that changed their lives for the better and pushed dance to the forefront in the UK.
Numerous TV shows sell out arena tours and yet they stay so humble and true to their fans.They always make time for their fans meeting them,talking to them having photos and tweeting.After all we are all twitter junkies.Its very rare that stars at their height of their careers stay so humble and human to their fans.I could name a few divas who forget where they came from but I won't as much as I would like to I don't fancy getting in trouble.
Ashley Banjo the leader choreographer and full of inspiring ideas.He is a giant,in my opinion of the dance world.Well he is 6ft5 defo a giant but a friendly creative one.Jordan Banjo brother of Ashley who also is a giant quite literally.Another one who is creative and humble and did his own show with Perri Kiely for children but if they gave up dance they would make excellent comedians!Sam and Mitch Craske two brothers also part of Diversity and great dancers who love their instagrams and love sharing their videos and photos with us humble fans.Always have time to tweet an have tweets with fans.Then theres Terry Smith,amazing dancer and the most hench muscles I've ever seen in a dancer(fangirl moment)Us ladies appreciate this.Warren Russell is another amazing dancer but hates being shipped(fangirl term)also makes time for his fans.Ike Ezekwugo(seriously hope I've spelt that right)another amazing human who is very multi talented drawing singing and dancing.
A lot of fans think we owe Diversity so much.Diversity have shown us to believe dream and achieve<we can think outside the box and we can do anything we want.They have shown us through Secret Street Crew,Ultimate Block Party,The town that danced again,anyone can dance no matter how old or young you are.There quotes are so true to life that we believe in ourselves.Our similarities make us different but our differences make us stronger,which is so true nowadays.Dream believe and achieve my son uses alot when he panics about something coming up thats daunting for him.Also we can all relate to dream believe and achieve as its all part of our everyday lives.
Diversity you are Britains dream and your fans including me will always support and believe in you.In our eyes you have done us proud and you make us proud every day.We never know what you are going to excite us with next.In my opinion apart from selling out the 02 arena is dancing ON TOP of the 02 arena.Be proud Diversity as theres not enough words to describe how proud us fans are of you.
Most talent who win shows like these seem to disappear never to be heard of again but Diversity are still stronger than ever in 2013.BGT was a massive life changing opportunity that changed their lives for the better and pushed dance to the forefront in the UK.
Numerous TV shows sell out arena tours and yet they stay so humble and true to their fans.They always make time for their fans meeting them,talking to them having photos and tweeting.After all we are all twitter junkies.Its very rare that stars at their height of their careers stay so humble and human to their fans.I could name a few divas who forget where they came from but I won't as much as I would like to I don't fancy getting in trouble.
Ashley Banjo the leader choreographer and full of inspiring ideas.He is a giant,in my opinion of the dance world.Well he is 6ft5 defo a giant but a friendly creative one.Jordan Banjo brother of Ashley who also is a giant quite literally.Another one who is creative and humble and did his own show with Perri Kiely for children but if they gave up dance they would make excellent comedians!Sam and Mitch Craske two brothers also part of Diversity and great dancers who love their instagrams and love sharing their videos and photos with us humble fans.Always have time to tweet an have tweets with fans.Then theres Terry Smith,amazing dancer and the most hench muscles I've ever seen in a dancer(fangirl moment)Us ladies appreciate this.Warren Russell is another amazing dancer but hates being shipped(fangirl term)also makes time for his fans.Ike Ezekwugo(seriously hope I've spelt that right)another amazing human who is very multi talented drawing singing and dancing.
A lot of fans think we owe Diversity so much.Diversity have shown us to believe dream and achieve<we can think outside the box and we can do anything we want.They have shown us through Secret Street Crew,Ultimate Block Party,The town that danced again,anyone can dance no matter how old or young you are.There quotes are so true to life that we believe in ourselves.Our similarities make us different but our differences make us stronger,which is so true nowadays.Dream believe and achieve my son uses alot when he panics about something coming up thats daunting for him.Also we can all relate to dream believe and achieve as its all part of our everyday lives.
Diversity you are Britains dream and your fans including me will always support and believe in you.In our eyes you have done us proud and you make us proud every day.We never know what you are going to excite us with next.In my opinion apart from selling out the 02 arena is dancing ON TOP of the 02 arena.Be proud Diversity as theres not enough words to describe how proud us fans are of you.
Lifes tribulations
Lifes Tribulations or lifes trials whatever word best describes life at the moment.You're probably thinking what is she going on about?Well where do I start?Start from the beginning maybe?I'm referring to dealing with the hidden disability that so many people don't understand because its not always visible.Yes I've had the typical attitudes from people "CAN'T YOU CONTROL YOUR CHILD?"or the "THAT CHILD NEEDS DISCIPLINE".People who relate to this will understand about meltdowns,routines,social stories,endless psychiatric appointments,dealing with changes and medications.
My child got diagnosed when he was 8 after years of pushing and nagging GPs,consultants and hospitals.Endless tests and the endless "there is something wrong but its a jigsaw we need to put together".We got there in the end but it was a battle for an official "label".A lot of parents go through like a grieving process when they receive a diagnosis and then they start blaming themselves.Its hard not to blame yourself but you do,its human nature and totally natural.Then comes dealing with the reality everyone giving textbook advice but deep down you have to decide whats best for your child as no-one knows your child like you but then your child is also very good at giving unexpected "blips".
As a parent (i'm talking about high functioning autism)you have to learn to speak a different way ie stop using sayings like "you're eyes are bigger than your belly" you know the ones I'm talking about.Autistic people take it very literally!Believe me I've learnt that the hard way!!You learn how to write social stories to explain situations and changes,picture timetables communication cards,traffic light systems so you know when they're stressed etc.Its a lot of work but worth it when it works.
I think I've hit the worst patch,again!!The age of starting secondary education,new routines,new teachers and new faces plus the onslaught of puberty mixed with depression with psychotic tendencies.Great mixture which all accumulates to one hell of a major meltdown.Sometimes no amount of preparation can prepare you for it.It comes with an almighty bang.
Take last night for instance walking upstairs to have my bath and I see my child ready to pounce on me at the top of the stairs weapon in hand ready to attack me.Yes he did hit me with it BUT I talked him out of it.The more you scream the worse the meltdown but if you try and stay calm and keep talking in a calm tone while restraining it passes.
Would I change him?No he is unique and special and I love him to bits but beware next time you see a child having a tantrum dont judge.It could be something like autism ask if they are okay don't assume its a spoilt brat which is down to the parents.Life is not that black and white.Too many people nowadays make assumptions.Unless you have had a child beg you to put them in hospital because they are scared of themselves then don't.I love my boy so much he is very intelligent and always makes me proud.I will fight for him and I always will and I will do whatever it takes.
My child got diagnosed when he was 8 after years of pushing and nagging GPs,consultants and hospitals.Endless tests and the endless "there is something wrong but its a jigsaw we need to put together".We got there in the end but it was a battle for an official "label".A lot of parents go through like a grieving process when they receive a diagnosis and then they start blaming themselves.Its hard not to blame yourself but you do,its human nature and totally natural.Then comes dealing with the reality everyone giving textbook advice but deep down you have to decide whats best for your child as no-one knows your child like you but then your child is also very good at giving unexpected "blips".
As a parent (i'm talking about high functioning autism)you have to learn to speak a different way ie stop using sayings like "you're eyes are bigger than your belly" you know the ones I'm talking about.Autistic people take it very literally!Believe me I've learnt that the hard way!!You learn how to write social stories to explain situations and changes,picture timetables communication cards,traffic light systems so you know when they're stressed etc.Its a lot of work but worth it when it works.
I think I've hit the worst patch,again!!The age of starting secondary education,new routines,new teachers and new faces plus the onslaught of puberty mixed with depression with psychotic tendencies.Great mixture which all accumulates to one hell of a major meltdown.Sometimes no amount of preparation can prepare you for it.It comes with an almighty bang.
Take last night for instance walking upstairs to have my bath and I see my child ready to pounce on me at the top of the stairs weapon in hand ready to attack me.Yes he did hit me with it BUT I talked him out of it.The more you scream the worse the meltdown but if you try and stay calm and keep talking in a calm tone while restraining it passes.
Would I change him?No he is unique and special and I love him to bits but beware next time you see a child having a tantrum dont judge.It could be something like autism ask if they are okay don't assume its a spoilt brat which is down to the parents.Life is not that black and white.Too many people nowadays make assumptions.Unless you have had a child beg you to put them in hospital because they are scared of themselves then don't.I love my boy so much he is very intelligent and always makes me proud.I will fight for him and I always will and I will do whatever it takes.
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